The wise cisgay person asks, what are the gender rituals that you want me to perform with you? Which pronouns, which gendered words do you want me to use, how do you want me to view you? We sit down with our friend and explain, teach this person the rules of our identities. 

The thoughtless cisgay person asks, why make it all about you? By thinking that trans liberation will take away from gay liberation, they fall into capitalism's trap of scarcity, forgetting that all liberation aids each other. Say to this cisgay person, "We want to acknowledge that our struggles are different, but that doesn't take away from our collective struggles for freedom. Join our fight as we have joined yours."

The simple cisgay person asks, what are you? We say "I'm someone journeying towards freedom". 

What about the cisgay person who doesn't know how to ask a question? To tell the story of trans liberation, we show them our own Exoduses. We take our shirts off to reveal healing top surgery scars. We insist our pronouns are she/her as we refuse to shave our mustaches. We beam as our friends introduce us using they/them pronouns. We let ourselves be joyful in our imperfectly queer and trans bodies. 


haggadah Section: -- Four Children